Ode to the Regular Girls

This is for the regular girls

 The 9 to 5 and one on the side girls 

The not so sleek or always on fleek the forgot to shave my legs I’ll just wear jeans instead girls 

The untrained waist and untamed hair girls the chipped nails, go to hell, I’m on a budget girls 

The flat booty, flat chested, crooked smile,  little too wild, black and mildly attractive girls

This is for the black spots having, flat shoes wearing, fuck your perfect make up and 6 inch heels girls 

For the girls with intangibles and love handles, unedited, unfiltered 10 takes still hate it girls 

This is for the 700 followers and 30 likes  fully clothed with a little poke girls 

This is for underrated, none hated, overlooked, regular degular, in between jobs, masters getting, kids having, making things happen, not so famous but still maintaining, regular ass girls and for the real MVPs that see the gold in us anyway.

No Woman (Or Man), No Cry… (Dating Philosophy) – 10 Old fashioned Dating habits we should bring back

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Most of us are too young to know about old-fashioned dating habits. But if you’ve seen old movies, then you know men used to call a lady to ask her on a date several days before. Then come date night, he’d show up all dressed up at her door with a bouquet of flowers, and take her to the movies. What if old-fashioned dating habits came back in style?

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#1. Getting picked up at the door.
No more of this texting or calling to say “I’m outside”, but actually getting out of the car and walking to the door. It takes just a minute and makes all the difference in the world. It’s a date, it’s special, and should be treated as such.

#2. Bring a small gift or flowers.
It’s thoughtful, kind, and a way of showing affection. Whenever I visit a friend, I always bring a little gift…

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#StayMadErin

Ok, so I’ve been working on a post for #ProjectLiveLifeFreely that I planned on dropping today but I just got irked so I felt the need to express myself. I saw that Erin Smith created a petition for Jesse Williams to be removed from Grey’s Anatomy because he “spewed a racist, hate speech against law enforcement and white people at the BET awards.” last week. Mad Erin’s Petition  So apparently this Erin Smith character; who is obviously the embodiment of ignorant ass white america. Is offended once again that a famous black (and when I say black the one drop rule always applies) person (Jesse Williams) actually cares about black people in america and is actively working to end the atrocious oppression we’ve dealt with in this country since the moment we built it off the ground your forefathers stole to what it is now!The audacity! Shame on you Jesse!

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Now in the event that you live under a rock or happen to be a member of ignorant ass white america, Jesse Williams who stars on ABC’s Grey’s Anatomy delivered a profound speech at this year’s BET awards touching on every issue in the black community in the most direct and beautiful way I think I’ve witnessed live in my entire life. As a young black woman in Atlanta it genuinely touched my spirit and gave me an inkling of hope for about 2.5 seconds.Jesse Williams 2016 BET Awards Speech(Also please note the ignorant ass white people comments on the video. I used it cause it was the best one I found and I thought the haterade that was poured was hilarious.) ANYWHO. Moving right along…

I had so much to say about Erin Cowmilk Smith’s rant about Jesse spewing racist blah blah bullshit on this petition to get Jesse removed from Grey’s Anatomy for racist remarks but, I’d rather just troll and make Erin Cowmilk Smith even more angry with a fun fact. Like, this petition wont make it off the ground. Why, why the hell not? Well Erin since you’re apart of ignorant ass white america I’m sure you didn’t know the creator of the show you loved so much until you found out it’s star really doesn’t like white women and cares about black people in real life she’s and BLACK WOMAN. Oh and the president of that network that you watch it on…. oh she’s a BLACK WOMAN TOO. titus-no-whyy.gif

Maybe Erin will get it to the President… Aw damn that guys is black too…What’s a broken hearted ignorant ass white person to do… FIRST

“And let’s get a couple things straight, just a little sidenote – the burden of the brutalized is not to comfort the bystander.That’s not our job, alright – stop with all that. If you have a critique for the resistance, for our resistance, then you better have an established record of critique of our oppression. If you have no interest, if you have no interest in equal rights for black people then do not make suggestions to those who do. Sit down.”

AND THEN… from black people to you and your diligent cohorts…#STAYMADERIN now excuse us as we drink white people tears LOL.

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Project Live Life Freely

So in case no one has noticed over the course of the past 3 months I’ve been doing a lot of traveling, road tripping, and simply living life to the max. Reasons being, I asked myself one day was I actually living my truth or simply existing as a slave to my biology and the glass ceilings set before me as young black woman trying to find a niche in chaos. Obviously my answer was no, no you’re not really living. So, on the road I went to the beach to find some peace.
After my first trip to Panama City Beach, Florida in April [which was AMAZEBALLS] I was pretty much addicted with the thrill of new experience and doing things that truly serve my soul. Then the law of attraction just present awesome new friends that enjoy similar things as myself. I guess you could say that’s when project live life freely went into full effect.
It’s been a shocker to those that know me the most because they’ve never witnessed my nature loving tree hugging side that has practically always been around. I suppose I just really never had the opportunity to actually go and do these things with like minded people that look like me.
So I’ve decided to share this part of the journey I call my life with you. My journey to live my life freely and wholeheartedly. There is really no real goal at the moment only to travel and the things that serve my soul and bring peace to my spirit. Whatever I discover on the way I suppose is my destiny. Where the waves of life will take me…well your guess is as good as mine. Welcome again to my truth.

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Help wanted

Shame on us all for our passive ass prayers as we sit without sympathy for others in despair using faith as a crutch not to do so much and God as our credit because apparently he prepaid for it…
Well, I call bullshit it’s time to take responsibility
Do not offer your prayers if you’re not willing to help me.
Your prayers dont feed empty bellies or comfort hurting hearts
They do not share wisdom or laughter or give brand new starts.
All that is given is a false sense of accomplishment to replace our humanity as we watch others perish as we watch and dont see
No my friends do not waste your prayers on me… or him or her or them over there
do not waste your prayers when you don’t really care because if you did things would have already changed but yet your prayers accumulate and things remain the same.
Now don’t go blaming this on God and plans for us all because this reality we live in we created it all. God didnt destroy our world or make anyone homeless or create diseases we did so let’s own it
Own it and fix and stop the insanity replace those empty prayers with a little humanity unclasp your hands and unbow your head and lend one or two to someone instead
So the next time you feel inclined to lend someone a prayer lend them a hand instead  because it’s help wanted there.

I give so much to people that just take and take until nothing is left and my cupboards and energy are empty and bare with nothing for myself and then proceed to fault me for my anger, fault me for my pain, fault me for no longer wanting to give to preserve myself in attempt to save my sanity. Searching for me in their times of need knowing I’ll be there but when my soul is in despair I find myself alone seeking comfort and always coming up short with no one but myself to rely on…

The Water

There’s something in the water calling my soul
It cant be ignored because the force is too strong
I don’t know what it is and I stopped trying to understand but there’s something in the water and something in the sand
There’s something in the water that’s calling my name and if don’t get there soon I may go insane
I stopped questioning this calling and decided to listen because whatever is calling has my souls mission
I have to obey otherwise it’d be treason
I’ll get to the water if for no other reason…
I made it to the water and this is what I found as I stood in it’s nature and took a look around…
There’s something in the water that purified me and finally I’ve made it to my destiny
It washed up on my feet and I watched it pass me by not knowing perfection was in my grasp not knowing that moment would have a swift goodbye
Life is like the ocean it gives and it takes but one thing’s for certain you cant stop the waves
They keep rolling onto shore and the cypher keeps rolling and the world keeps spinning just as it had always done since the very beginning
And just as stood in the water where the Atlantic and Caribbean form the gulf of Mexico I came to remembrance of what I came to know
This life gives and this life takes but the beauty’s in the moment and that’s what makes it great
no matter what it gives it’ll surely come back to take it so enjoy the little moments that take your breath away, that catch you by surprise, bring tears to you eyes, because when your time on shore is done and you’re pulled back into the waves those moments that you cherish are the only things you save.

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